Have you ever talked about your food shame in real time?  What do I mean by this?

I mean talking to a trusted support person AS you are bingeing, AS you are eating in secret, AS you are ripping open wrappers with a vengeance.  If you have never done this, you should.

Our tendency is to "screw up" AND THEN come clean and talk about it after hiding for awhile.  We let the event become part of the past and wiggle our way out of it by not really talking about the ins and outs of what happened and instead, judge ourselves for what happened and focus on how we are planning to do better next time.

By doing this, you miss out on a powerful experience of being seen and loved IN YOUR SHAME.

I will never try to convince you to stop eating once you are in the food.  The brain wants what it wants, and often once the mind is made up, there is just no stopping it.  However, if you let me, I will walk alongside you as you eat.  We will have a conversation.  I will ask you some questions.  We will walk hand in hand through this.  I will never judge you.  I will only love you.  You step from darkness into the light when you let others into your shame experience.  The light makes your shame shrink.  Suddenly, you are okay, more than okay, in your imperfection.  This is healing.

I see you and I love you whether you are in the food or not.  Will you give yourself the experience of being seen and loved in your shame?

Until next time,