I've had several conversations with people who believe "they are doing it wrong."  "They" could be grocery stores that aren't enforcing six feet of social distancing in lineups.  "They" could be health professionals and the government who are either not taking COVID-19 seriously enough or taking it too seriously.  "They" could be China or Italy or the United States.  "They" could be a mother or a neighbour or a partner who is showing up during this time differently than you want them to.

What I want to point out to you is that "they" is a circumstance that you have no control over.  When you believe "they are doing it wrong", you cause yourself to sit in judgement, negativity, anxiety, and frustration.  You defend yourself and explain your position and they just don't get it.  They keep doing what they are doing.  You spin in self-righteousness.

There are many thoughts and opinions around you.  The thought that "they are doing it wrong" causes you to vacate your life and brain and jump into theirs.  When you are in their brain, who is in yours?  Certainly not you.  You left.  Come back.

What if you are wrong that "they are doing it wrong"?  What if people are actually doing the best they know how given their own set of circumstances, thoughts, and feelings?  What if you're doing it wrong?  How could the thought "I'm doing it wrong" be just as true or truer than "they're doing it wrong"?

Until next time,