Your partner does not exist to make you happy.  You do.  Your partner exists for you to love them.  Period.

I get this mixed up sometimes.  Sometimes when I'm not happy, I look to my partner and think of the ways he could change in order to make me happy.  He comes up short every single time.  Even when he tries to do it right, he doesn't do it exactly right.  I'm impossible to please.

When I think about happiness and look to myself to be responsible for that, I get happier, and magically, my relationship gets so much better.  If I focus on meeting my own needs and loving my partner, life works well.

What generates the feeling of love?  Your thoughts.

There are so many things I like about my partner.  I love his lighter outlook on life; he's not serious like me.  I love watching him play with puppies and children.  He's really funny.  I love that I can use loads of sarcasm and tease him and he doesn't get offended...he joins in the fun.  I love his hair.  It's super sexy.  When I think these kinds of thoughts, I feel love.  I generate love.  My heart gets all warm and mushy.

When I think of how I can "let" my partner be exactly who he is instead of trying to make him act according to my agenda, something in me releases.  It's not his job to be anyone else except who he is.  This doesn't mean I don't have choices.  I could choose to leave him.  I could choose to stay with him.  I can make requests of him, too -- I just don't hang my happiness on his responses.

No matter what, love is always available.

Loving your partner is for you, not them.  Love feels amazing.

Until next time,